Since I started tarot reading in 2005, I’ve done lot of love tarot readings for querents, strangers and friends alike. Asking the tarot about love and relationships is absolutely okay, but I sometimes feel like querents need a little more guidance on asking questions that lead to insightful, actionable answers.
Why love is still the most popular topic tarot readers get asked about
When speaking to an older generation tarot reader (I’m a millennial, they’re part of Gen X), I was curious about their time doing tarot readings for random strangers at bars in Malate in the 90s. I asked what the most common or notable topic querents approached them with, and they said “Naku, love pa rin.” (Translation: Oh, it’s still love.)
Love in any form is complicated and can be a touchy, stressful topic, especially in a culture where there is societal pressure to find “the one” and start a family. So it’s unsurprising that tarot readers get approached for answers when it comes to love problems.
Common Love Tarot Reading Questions
Some of the more common love questions I’ve encountered over the years include:
- Is this person my soulmate/twin flame?
- Babalik ba ex ko? (Will my ex come back?)
- Will this current relationship work out?
- When will I find love? / When will I find the one?
- Does this person love me back? / How does this person really feel about me?
Questions 1-3 are yes-or-no questions, which aren’t very helpful, IMHO. I have an entire blog post talking about why you should reconsider asking tarot yes-or-no questions, so please check that out as well.
The main problem with Questions 1-4 is that they lead to very fixed and limiting answers. For Question 5, that’s more of a third-party reading that comes with its own ethical problems.
What to Ask for a More Insightful Love Tarot Reading
Instead of going for any of the common questions above, try out these tips for crafting better love tarot reading questions:
- Focus on self-awareness, not control. Instead of asking, “Will they love me?” consider: “What can I do to foster a healthy relationship?” This shift encourages reflection and growth.
- Be clear and specific. Vague questions can yield vague answers. Try narrowing your focus to your present situation, feelings, patterns, choices, or challenges. This way, the cards can offer insight you can use to figure out your next steps clearly.
- Avoid yes/no questions. As I said, yes-or-no questions can be very limiting. Tarot works best as a guide, not a fortune-telling tool. Asking for insight or advice rather than a final, definitive outcome can give you greater understanding and empowerment.
- Check your emotional state. Reading while anxious or upset may cloud interpretation. Take a moment to center yourself before your session to ensure clarity.
By asking grounded, emotionally honest questions, a love tarot reading becomes less about predicting outcomes and more about understanding yourself within your relationships.
Love and relationships are complex, and tarot works best as a reflective tool one that helps you see patterns, choices, and emotional truths more clearly.